Episode 4

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23rd May 2025

Words of Resillience - Part 2

In this moving conclusion to our poetry mini-series, Natalie and Stacey bring the final chapters of Stacy’s IVF journey to life through her stunning poems. If you’ve been walking this path or loving someone who is this episode is a powerful companion.

Stacey shares not just the pain and loss, but the moments of quiet courage and the slow emergence of hope. From letting go to holding on, from disbelief to the unspoken darkness, and finally to The Light.

What we discuss:

  • The Hopeless: Letting go, hitting emotional and physical limits, and facing a new reality.
  • The Disbelief: Surrendering control, choosing silence for self-preservation, and the tentative reappearance of hope.
  • The Unspoken Darkness: What no one tells you about after a successful IVF — fear, anxiety, and the struggle to feel joy again.
  • The Light: Healing doesn’t mean forgetting. The journey shapes us — even when the darkness begins to fade.
  • Navigating pregnancy after infertility — and the neuroses it brings
  • Feeling robbed of joy even after good news — and why that’s okay
  • Parenting one child and answering complex questions about family and origin
  • Why the pain of infertility never fully disappears, but transforms over time
  • How poetry became a powerful outlet — and how you can start writing, too

"The journey shaped me. It tested me. It broke us down. It built us up. It will never fully go away — but it feels distant now. Smaller. In the rearview mirror."

Also, check out the recommended podcast Finally Pregnant by Cat Strawbridge for more on pregnancy after infertility.

⚠️ Trigger Warning

This episode includes discussion of IVF trauma, pregnancy loss, PTSD, and emotional distress during and after fertility treatment. Please take care when listening, and pause if it feels overwhelming.

🎧 And Finally...

If you’ve made it through this three-part series — thank you. Whether you're in the thick of your fertility journey or reflecting from the other side, this series is here to hold space for all the complexity, sorrow, strength, and transformation that this experience brings.

As Stacey says, "The light for everyone is going to look a little different — whether that’s a baby or peace."

You're not alone.

Stacy’s poems are now available in a self-published collection on Amazon here

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The Fertility Podcast
The Fertility Podcast|Expert interviews|Women and Men sharing #TTC stories|Wellbeing support
If you’ve found your route to parenthood hasn’t been straightforward, The Fertility Podcast is for you. From how to optimise your fertility to getting pregnant naturally, navigating IVF, understanding donor conception or surrogacy to how to prepare for a life without children. Whatever your situation, you are not alone. Created by Natalie Silverman, a former fertility patient in 2014 Natalie set about speaking to experts and sharing lived experience and expert interviews In 2019 Kate Davies, an independent fertility nurse consultant joined as co-host and from 2023-2024, Kate hosted the podcast solo sharing more of her expert insight and stories from her patients. As The Fertility Podcast reached its 10th anniversary the decision was taken to cease publishing.. until now. The Fertility Podcast is proud to partner with Fertility Action, a new UK charity dedicated to supporting anyone affected by infertility, secondary infertility, or sub-fertility. Together, we aim to amplify our mission of education, empowerment, and support. Fertility Action combines patient advocacy with expert knowledge to offer peer support, therapy, and reliable information. They are also committed to improving fertility care access, raising awareness, and driving research to advance understanding and treatment.

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